Q: Recently, our twenty year old daughter called from college to announce that she is bringing home her first serious boyfriend for Rosh Hashanah. He is an A student, the leader of his a cappella group, and involved in community service. Before she introduced him to us, she warned us that although he is a great person, he is not Jewish. We had always expected and hoped that she would date only Jewish guys, and we had talked about this ad nauseam before she left for college. The truth is, we were a little hurt that she rebelled against us. She had a strong Jewish education and continued Hebrew lessons throughout high school. We observe Shabbat weekly and celebrate all of the holidays. My daughter has been to Israel and remains an active member of Hillel on her campus.
S atire is at its most effective when it plays with stereotypes. In a piece on relationships between Jewish men and non-Jewish women in last week’s G2, however, the Guardian fashion correspondent Hadley Freeman – albeit with only playful intent – merely rehashes them. According to Freeman, Jewish men are “the most desirable properties on the market. Oy vay! Freeman begins by looking back on her Sunday school days – “the only advantage as far as I was concerned was the food,” she recalls.
The boys, sadly, weren’t much of a draw: “Frankly, all they provoked in us was a big ol’ Jewish shrug.
‘Antisemitism doesn’t give Jews a right to be racist’: Man gets into very heated religious debate with his Jewish aunt after she tried to make him.
My husband’s father and mother are Jews. My parents are both what Mr. Hitler would be pleased to call ‘Aryan’ Germans. I am an American-born girl, and the first to defend my Americanism in an argument; yet so strong are family ties, and the memory of a happy thirteen-month sojourn in the Vaterland a few years ago, that I frequently find myself trying to see things from the Nazis’ point of view and to find excuses for the things they do—to the dismay of our liberal-minded friends and the hurt confusion of my husband.
Here we are then, Ben and I, a Jew and a German-American, married for four years, supremely happy, with a three-year-old son who has his father’s quick brown eyes and my yellow hair. Ours was a fervent love match, made more fervent by the fact that we had to wait in secret for two years until Ben earned enough at his profession to support a family.
He had known other girls and, as I was twenty-five before we married, I had had my share of other men’s attention. Consequently our marriage was not the hasty, impassioned leap of two people soaring on the Icarian wings of a first love. That which was between us was calm as the night, deep as the sea; in the light of it we both knew that forever afterwards he would look upon other women, and I upon other men, as pale wraiths. We determined that no obstacle should prevent our union, and obstacles there were a-plenty as soon as our families learned our intention.
Married to a Jew, you will be barred from certain circles. They can say what they like about Germany, but democratic America is far from wholeheartedly accepting the Jews. Remember that Ben couldn’t join a fraternity at his university. Remember there are clubs and resorts and residential districts that bar Jews.
So when the year-old first logged onto JDate in , she indicated she’d be willing to meet both kosher and non-kosher matches (she was.
Judaism maintains that the righteous of all nations have a place in the world to come. This has been the majority rule since the days of the Talmud. Judaism generally recognizes that Christians and Moslems worship the same G-d that we do and those who follow the tenets of their religions can be considered righteous in the eyes of G-d. Contrary to popular belief, Judaism does not maintain that Jews are better than other people.
Although we refer to ourselves as G-d’s chosen people, we do not believe that G-d chose the Jews because of any inherent superiority. According to the Talmud Avodah Zarah 2b , G-d offered the Torah to all the nations of the earth, and the Jews were the only ones who accepted it. The story goes on to say that the Jews were offered the Torah last, and accepted it only because G-d held a mountain over their heads!
In Ex. Another traditional story suggests that G-d chose the Jewish nation because they were the lowliest of nations, and their success would be attributed to G-d’s might rather than their own ability. Clearly, these are not the ideas of a people who think they are better than other nations. Because of our acceptance of Torah, Jews have a special status in the eyes of G-d, but we lose that special status when we abandon Torah.
Furthermore, the blessings that we received from G-d by accepting the Torah come with a high price: Jews have a greater responsibility than non-Jews. While non-Jews are only obligated to obey the seven commandments given to Noah, Jews are responsible for fulfilling the mitzvot in the Torah, thus G-d will punish Jews for doing things that would not be a sin for non-Jews.
His wife is expecting their first child. He has no plans to convert to Judaism. However, he and his wife have agreed to raise their children as Jews and have even discussed sending them to day school. Nick is one example of a modern man who has married into Judaism — in his case, without converting.
The piece was written at a time when there were relatively few intermarriages in the United States, and it was still common for Jewish parents to.
American Jews have been debating the impact of intermarriage for decades. Does intermarriage lead to assimilation and weaken the Jewish community? Or is it a way for a religion that traditionally does not seek converts to bring new people into the fold and, thereby, strengthen as well as diversify the Jewish community? The new Pew Research Center survey of U. Jews did not start this debate and certainly will not end it.
For example, the survey shows that the offspring of intermarriages — Jewish adults who have only one Jewish parent — are much more likely than the offspring of two Jewish parents to describe themselves, religiously, as atheist, agnostic or nothing in particular. In that sense, intermarriage may be seen as weakening the religious identity of Jews in America. Yet the survey also suggests that a rising percentage of the children of intermarriages are Jewish in adulthood.
In this sense, intermarriage may be transmitting Jewish identity to a growing number of Americans.
After each relationship ended, the men went on to marry women of their own faith. Oh, the outcry. And then, the mirth.
Jerry Seinfeld and Julia Louis Dreyfuss, who played Elaine on the hit series, ‘Seinfeld’. Purcell, a Christian, had been in serious relationships with.
It was a few days prior to the beginning of my job at an Orthodox summer program, and I was obliged to complete the rigorous training course in order to fulfill the requirements of the position. It was the summer after my first year of college, for which I lived at home and commuted daily, and I was hesitant to embark upon a journey to a place where no one knew me, where they’d hardly ever uttered the word “Jew. I was different After a few challenging hours at the course, I found that I had to work hard to create a feeling of importance in the small Jewish commandments I was fulfilling in this secular, relaxed, camp-like atmosphere.
I didn’t have to wear a Jewish star on my neck to feel different or separate. I was different. I ate my own special food. I got up earlier in the morning to pray in secret, whispering the words while constantly trying to avoid an unwanted and curious audience. Does it really matter if I dress modestly? I wondered on my second day, as some of my new acquaintances and I hit a local mall during time off. I picked a new mini-skirt and a tiny tee shirt, something I would never feel comfortable in at home where the standards were different.
But here- even in this new outfit, I was still overdressed. That night, after whispering the bedtime prayer of the Shema , I felt like that old philosophical riddle, “If a tree falls in a forest, and no one is around to hear it, does it make a sound? I didn’t intend to like Colin, to dip my toes into the forbidden waters of dating a non-Jew.
He’s picky and busy and on top of all that a little shy. Guy has a hard time finding a Jewish girlfriend which hasn’t even changed by moving from.
According to one obsessed person who comments on my blog, I think gentile women are superior to Jewish women. In short, follow The Rules, the best-selling dating manual written by, ahem, two Jewish women. Avi an engaging writer and oddly entertaining, albeit in a horrified watching-a-train-wreck kind of way. Avi, who lives in the Virginia suburbs of Washington, D.
It seems to rely on the assumption that outside the Orthodox community at least Jewish women are desperate to marry Jewish men, whereas Jewish men have no particular loyalty to their heritage. And I am skeptical that Ms. In a rare allusion to Jewish texts, Ms. Despite her general opposition to dating gentiles, Ms. Avi does make an exception for women over 35, who she believes should date anyone able to provide them with some viable sperm and companionship.
I can see why Ms. Is it simply that Jewish women have a duty to save their former Hebrew school classmates from the throes of assimilation?